Marriage

The Struggle is Real.

The parenting struggle is real. Its impact on marriage is very real, too.

What does one do to navigate better?

Attend a parenting seminar of course (and make it a date night)!

In March 2019, my husband and I went to see outstanding motivational presenter Bruce Sullivan present at our kids’ school. (We are so fortunate our very dedicated Principal arranged for Bruce to present his seminar to us parents.)

Some gems from parenting seminar:

👉We Chose This. Being married. Being a parent. We chose it. So, when we need to wake up in the middle of the night to change a nappy, or when kids are at your ankle demanding your attention, just remember we chose this!

👉When we get into “Whose Had The Worse Day Competition”, that’s when we’re doomed as a unit.

👉INTENTION vs IMPACT. It’s great we intend to be kind, patient. But intention means nothing to husband and kids if our behavioural impact does not match the intention. What will stand out to them is that you were short, demanding and unpleasant. (for example).

👉That the WINDSCREEN is bigger than the REAR VIEW MIRROR. Just keep looking forward.

Blown away with the content, delivery and vital message, of course I reached out to Bruce!

I asked him if he’d share his wisdom with you guys.

And he agreed.

So I emailed you.

And asked you what challenges are on parenting front?

And if it impacts your marriage?

It was unanimous. COMMUNICATION is struggle street for us all.

So here it is, guys. I bring to you the conversation I had with Bruce Sullivan. We had such good laughs!

COMMUNICATION IN MARRIAGE SERIES

It’s broken into 5 parts. I recommend you listen to all 5, as Bruce offers so many actionable tips you can apply STRAIGHT AWAY.

[First time interviewing - nervous as! He’s sought after by the likes of Virgin Australia! LOADS of oils helped me relax (Lavender), get my words out (Spearmint), and more importantly to really connect with Bruce (Marjoram and Cedarwood). He is a total legend for making me feel so comfortable. We had a tonne of fun!]

The key to making lasting changes in marriage is doing the small and consistent action. That’s when IMPACT occurs. Even if you get 1 or 2 key ideas from this series, start with that. Most of all, just have fun with it!

You can learn more about Bruce Sullivan and his incredible work at brucesullivan.com.au

So incredibly grateful for his time to share his wisdom. What a gift.

Hope you love this conversation and get something out of it.

If you did, please share this blog article with someone who else who may need it.

x Nat

Last Straw Argument - What It Did To My Marriage...

How did this whole blog/site/business/passion project start?

When I said, "this is not the way it's supposed to be".

Constant bickering, fighting and arguments over petty shit left me feeling so unloved and so misunderstood. This was when our first baby came along.  

Can you relate?

And then the last straw argument. I knew I couldn't go on. Something had to change.

Something did change (I discovered something so powerful about relating to my husband). And I turned things around. 

I had the honour of being interviewed for the Happy Mama with Amy Taylor-Kabbaz Podcast; a woman I've girl-crushed on because her work has soul-saved me!!

In this podcast interview, I wear my heart on my sleeve and it gets raw.

You'll hear about:

- The book that changed my life (The Five Love Languages).

- How important it is to know each other's love language. 

- How to de-code what your spouse is doing so that you feel loved. 

Grab a cuppa, put your headphones on for an up close and personal feel, and get to know a little more about me and my mission about helping married mothers fall back in love with their husbands. This podcast goes for about 25mins.

Press play below {please be patient for it to load : } 


Photo via  Visualhunt.com

Photo via Visualhunt.com

 

Please share/comment on what parts you resonated with?

Would love to hear your story, too. 

 

Show notes: 

1. The 5 Love Languages  Online test

2. The Gottman Institute

3. Sarah Napthali, Buddhism For Mothers

4. Personal edit: It was incorrect of me to say "I stumbled across" the book The Five Love Languages. It's more accurate to note my mentor Katherine Beaumont advised me about many years prior, so I bought it. It sat on my bookshelf for years before I had to read it. Classic case of "the teacher arrives when the student is ready". 

5. Find out more about the interviewer, Amy Taylor-Kabbaz, and her amazing soul work at Happy Mama