"Soo.... are you a therapist or a counsellor or something?" asked my aunt.


Today, my aunt called for a little chit chat. After a bit of small talk and telling me she watched my 2 Part Secrets videos (wow, the vids are getting reach?!), she asked:

So, what do you do? Are you a therapist or counsellor or something?

(Side note: Family never really know what you do. What degree you did. Or what you're up to. And it's endearing they ask. Still, they probably will never understand. And it's not their job to. It's your job to stay on task, on mission, on purpose, and making your life exceptional, so it matters very little what others think.)

And this is the EXACT response I gave her.

"No, Ming (Khmer word for Aunty), I am not a therapist or a counsellor. I don't have that training, that's not up my alley. I'm a life enthusiast, and I want an above average marriage. I've worked out a few things, and continue to practice things everyday. I share my greatest lessons, and if this makes sense to people, they come with me on the journey of aiming for above average. They can buy my coaching programs or they can buy some essential oils, or both, to help them navigate. I'm just a girl, wanting an above average marriage and life".

And so she responds: Ahh, okay, like that You Tube stuff that my kids watch. Oh I see... yep... oh that's nice.

(2nd side note: Refer to 1st side note).

I'm chuffed people take interest. I'm even more chuffed when people MAKE A DECISION to be above average. And I'm not talking about getting measured by your kids' school reports. I'm talking about YOUR daily actions, YOUR mindsets, and YOUR behaviours.

I love aspiring for above average .... because anything else is boring, quite frankly.

Want an above average marriage? Here are some tips:

- Display *above average* patience (doing an invisible Zip-It over the lips works very well)

- Listen intently with *above average* listening ears (What is your husband complaining / whinging / airing grievances / stressed about? This will give you clues on how you can support him.)

- Acknowledge you cannot change others; therefore the only person you can change is YOU. Be *above average* and have this emotional insight.

- Have 100% personal accountability (When things don't go to plan, when conflict arises, when arguments ensue, be accountable for your part. What did I say/do? How could can I communicate my expectations clearer?)

- Ask *above average* questions. A really good one is: 
How can I help you today, my darling?


So... the point is... you are the decision maker of your own life. You can decide how you will live it, what you want to feel etc.

I am committed to ABOVE AVERAGE in all aspects of my life. 
My Marriage, presence with my Kids, Health, Emotional Status, Finances, Well Being, Ability to Serve and Give Back. Because anything less than that is totally unsexy.

I hope you want ABOVE AVERAGE, too. 
If you're keen and not sure where to start, I can help. 
Send me a message and say "I want above average too" and it will be my greatest joy and delight steer you in the right direction.

x Nat