How to manage the inner conflict of juggling work / family.

PRODUCTIVITY VS PRESENCE
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I’ve been MIA (missing in action) for a while.

That's what happens when I feel the struggle.

What is the struggle?

Managing the inner conflict of The Two Ps: Choosing "Productivity" or "Presence".

Loosely defined;

Productivity = creating, producing, churning out results.
i.e. career

Presence = keeping still, tuning into what my family needs (especially me).
i.e. relationships

I LOVE BOTH
*Productivity* and *Presence*:

I love psyching myself up to do a Facebook live (so I can announce competition winners!)

I love reading books on marriage; distilling the gems and writing up notes for a blog post.

I love undisturbed time to punch out paperwork (especially EOFY time). It's so geekily cathartic.

SIMULTANEOUSLY

I love school holidays and listening to the laughs and chats my kids have with each other.

I love preparing healthy meals and seeing the joy in my husband's face when I bring him lunch to the workshop.

I love that I'm getting better with self care; unapologetic about pedicures, going to the movies with friends, diffusing essential oils.

SO HERE’S WHAT I CHOOSE RIGHT NOW

When I'm torn between these two places, I now always choose PRESENCE.

There will always be tomorrow, or next week, to Produce.

My babies will not be 3 and 6 forever.

So right now, where I am, I choose PRESENCE.

And I'm really grateful to Rob for really teaching me this important distinction. 
(His presence with the kids is astonishing).

So that’s why I’ve been inactive on this page for a while:

- Been hanging out with the kids for the school holidays. 
(Cars 3 is a terrible movie, BTW.)

- Been attending to winter snots, colds and flus. 
(Thank you, essential oils, for helping us.)

- Been listening to my body to practice active breathing. 
(First time ever in my life to feel some anxiety.)

- Been on a date with my husband. 
(We learnt how to make ravoli from scratch.)

When school resumes next week and I switch gears, I’ll pop in more often.

For now, thanks for allowing me to be inconsistent.

Hope you’re all still smiling.

Lots of love from this corner.

xx

Date nights happen because they're scheduled in advance, otherwise they may never happen. This is us making ravioli from scratch - yum!

Date nights happen because they're scheduled in advance, otherwise they may never happen. This is us making ravioli from scratch - yum!