I work with smart married mums who really want to get things back on track.
Do you nod your head to these sentiments?
the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives
a healthy marriage is the building block for a functional and loving household
creating a secure environment of love is important for raising children
I reject the fallacy "yeah well, we have children now, of course things get stale, this is the way it goes"
I choose We over Me, and I am responsible for my part in my marriage
Don't agree? I wish you all the best in healing your marriage in a way that works for you.
If you smiled/nodded to at least 4 of these sentiments, you and I might have a beautiful friendship ahead of us to mend your once healthy relationship.
To be crystal clear, I define a healthy relationship as one that is Abuse + Addiction free. If you don't feel safe, I urge you to find safety ASAP. This site will not serve you.
I am NOT, nor do I ever claim to be a psychologist, a counsellor or a therapist. The clients who I get the best results for are in fact seeing (or have seen) a psychologist and/or therapist to heal their trauma. They seek me out as a complementary aid in their healing; to offer perspective, insight, guidance, and arm them with ready-to-go tools to steer their marriage and life back on track.
It ain't easy. But it is simple when you know how.
It's like saying losing weight is simple: eat less, exercise more. Pretty simple, right? But sure as hell not as easy.
I know the difficult place you're in right now.
Feels like anything and everything he seems to do or say just, well, pisses you off.
It's all a little too hard, too overwhelming, and just defeating. I know. I know. I know.
Your wish list might be: More appreciation. More time with each other. More respect. More conversation. More massages. And maybe just a few more I Love You post-it-notes on the fridge (or maybe it's flowers?). Oh my, are we asking for too much? Nope - I don't think so.
With HARD WORK (i.e. COMMITMENT and open MIND SET), I got the wish list (and even more delights).
Here's the no 1. secret for a Spine Tingling Marriage:
What you want, you need to give. It is universal law.
Be introspective. Ask questions inwards, not outwards.
"Why doesn't he cherish me like the way he used to?" was a curious question...but it was the WRONG question.
When I started asking better questions, such as, "What am I doing to make this marriage work?" The game changed. And my marriage got better and better.
Remember, you can't change someone. Only YOU can change. (I know, I know. It sucks to know we're not perfect. And guess what? Neither is he.)
So back to the losing weight analogy, it sounds easy, but it isn't. I know that. That's why I'm here and available for you. To make it easier. I've got tips and tricks up my sleeve which you can start making progress on RIGHT NOW.
After working together, these are the results I get my clients:
You drop your guard. You don't get so pissed off so easily anymore.
Your needs get met; you get things you ask for without manipulation or silly games.
You will feel like he's finally understanding you, just like those early days.
You will feel validated and cherished like once before.
You can approach difficult conversations with good outcomes, without getting into war.
You have a tool-kit up your sleeve on how to approach conflict
You can be present for your kids.
You will get back to that ear-to-ear grinning relationship you had in the beginning of your healthy relationship.
I get my clients these results using Buddhist teachings, delivering distilled marriage advice from the world's best marriage institutions and experts in the world.
In short: I've studied the best, I've implemented first hand, I get results.
One client claimed our sessions were more effective than formal marriage counselling.
"Nat’s greatest quality is the ability to allow you to share your most inner fears, issues and feelings without judgement. It’s a safe environment where you feel you are talking to a friend who cares and has your best interests at heart. She is not there for you to hear what you want, but instead to offer perspective and ways to better yourself and hence your relationship. I feel I understand my husband more…and we are getting closer again. With Nat’s guidance I became much better at self awareness, which has been key to understanding why we were fighting so much. To understand one another and to know HOW to communicate better is unequivocally the road to happiness. Nat guides you through this and encourages real life solutions to ultimately find that happiness again. She is amazing."
Are you ready to live in a marriage you truly love? Here's how we can work together.
I offer one-on-one coaching and run workshops.
I offer 3 types of one-on-one coaching packages, which are designed to suit your situation right now. To make sure we're the right fit for each other, book yourself a free 20 minute "Get It Off Your Chest" session using the link below and I can recommend which is right for you. Click here to see what I offer.
I am running workshops in 2018 in Brisbane, Sydney and Gold Coast. Herein I deliver the best of what I know. They are full of insight and will always offer an action plan for you to make progress in your marriage. If you're interested, pop in your deets and I'll keep you posted on when they're happening.
I'm Nathalie Biviano.
It's my job to help you bring back your loving marriage and stunning life.
The one you had before kids. Yes, it is possible.
This is so personal and so hard to admit there are struggles. I get it.
"At first I was a little sceptical to share my marital issues. It is so personal and hard to admit that you may have some struggles in your marriage. There is so much external pressure to look like you are having an amazing time in every aspect of your life let alone the pressure from within that you feel to keep it altogether. However Nat is so warm and open; her work made sense to me. The more I shared the more helpful it became as she could really pinpoint easily where we needed work and how to go about it. Nothing seemed as difficult as what I had built up in my mind.
Every bit of advice Nat has given me as worked. All the information she tailored to my situation helped beyond what I could have imagined. Nat knows exactly how to strip back problems to find the real root of the issue. I couldn't be more grateful for her help.
I would completely recommend her coaching service to anyone who really wants to have a long happy marriage!"
That's why I'm here for you. I genuinely want to help make a difference in your marriage and life. Let's chat.
Book a free 20 minute session (absolutely no obligation to take up any coaching packages) and we can start making tracks in your marriage. I know this whole situation isn't easy, that's why I'm here to guide you. Things can change - and it can all start with you right now.